I never really understood that label, until of course I had to face the repercussions of a broken marriage. Number 1, the maturity of a person or the lack thereof, lies in whether or not they take responsibility for their part for the failure of their relationship. No matter what anyone says, the failure of a relationship is 50/50. The reason why I say this, is because God gives us the opportunity to understand what goes into a lovely and Blessed relationship through scripture. Most of us, have the opportunity to open up the Bible and read about love, respect, integrity, WISE CHOICES, etc. but some of us do not, because we want to live how we want to live, and then fuss about it on social media, when we get burned.
That word Narcissist, is yet another label designed to give a title to spiritual wickedness. But the one in love with the narcissist, is just as wicked, because they chose wickedness over Holiness. Looks entice, even smooth words, and God gives us warning against both. (Proverbs 1:10) “My son, if sinners entice thee, consent thou not.” Read Proverbs 1. In fact, read the entire book of Proverbs.
In our lost society, we play the blame game so much, and get people to side with us. We would like to take the attention away from us, so people won’t focus in on how we chose the people that we chose. I had problems, because I did not pray before I jumped off the ark of safety, and chose my own mate, by what I thought was right in a spouse. DANGEROUS. Now that I am growing from my mistakes, I am learning that I had a large part to play, in why my marriage fell a part. This is not giving an excuse to people’s abuse within relationships, this is just stating the facts. Unless we come from cultures with arranged marriages and friendships, we have the chance to choose *right.
If Jesus Christ already has the perfect plan for the most loving, fulfilling and Blessed relationships, why not choose Him? Why do we think that our personal attractions is enough to build on? We were designed to attract physically, but we were not designed to fall so deeply into attraction that we try to build a home on sinking sand, where no moral exists, and there are no core values. Looks , caste and personality are not enough. Physical beauty can not be the reason why we fall in love and breed more generations through this false perception of love.
Society calls it Narcissism. The Body of Christ calls it the Jezebel spirit. It can affect men and women. You would have to read about “Jezebel” to understand what this means. She was a real person in the Bible and, she was very evil. Her ending was not pleasant.
A “Narcissistic” person is dangerous, however the one who chooses a narcissistic person can be just as toxic. I do not like being around either one. If you are around someone who has the spirit of Jezebel, you can and most likely will get hurt if you are around them for too long. A person who continues to label a person as such, without taking their own responsibility, tends to put everyone on a checklist. When their relationships fail with people, it is always the other person, because they were a “narcissist”. Anything you do wrong, even if not intentionally even with intent, you become a red flag, and eventually you are crowned with the title, “narcissist”. It is a demeaning title if you are not one, and quite hurtful. One finds themselves, looking at their mistakes like…..”Maybe I am one.” Be careful tossing around labels. Narcissism is more of a spiritual state, than it is a mental state…such as choosing someone who embodies that spirit. When you choose wrong, it is because of the state of your spirit. We are told so many times through scripture to not be deceived. When we know our worth in Christ, we want nothing less, than what Jesus wants for us.