For those of you whom have lost your Beautiful Mommas…..ūüíď

You’re physically gone

But you’re in my heart

You couldn’t

 see me

To my 

End

But you 

Gave me a 

Strong start.

Today

Like all days

I remember you 

The most.

Your tenderness

Your love…

Of your attributes

I boast.

I can’t give you

FlowersūüĆĻ

Egg shell omletes ūüć≥ūüėā

And tea‚ėē,

But I’ll share 

This gift

That you 

Passed on…

To be the best me

I can be.

Men…”Character”…it matters to Women.

I have heard men make this statement:

“She chose, HIM? I look way better than he does.”

Do women care about looks? Of course we do…to an extent. A good hearted woman also cares about the character of a man. The next thing after being confident is being self-absorbed. There is no such thing as being “overly confident”. Either someone is insecure, confident or arrogant. 

In many cases, if a woman chooses, what you assume is a downgrade because it was not you…that is probably why she did not want you. It is often the issue of poor character. People want mutual respect….to know that they are supported in their dreams, loved, and a humble person, etc. You could be walking on one leg (nothing wrong with that) if you truly love that woman that you are with….she is yours and you are hers, and no man in her eyes,  is better than you. 

If you have to joke about why she is so swept off of her feet by this <supposed> “ugly man”…you may want to take some time alone and learn to loveūüíė, <<you>>.  

Of course there are the opportunist women…the jezebels of our time, but that is for another day. 

Guys, keep your heads up. If she moved on, let her be happy. Question very little if possible, and you move on and be happy to. We are living on such borrowed time to be so hung up on relationships that did not work out. Take everything as a lesson for growth.  

(Proverbs 4:25) “Let thine eyes look right on, and let thine eyelids look straight before thee.”

God Bless!

Marriage tranforms people into…exactly who they were before the vows.

Some men want women that are so “different” and eccentric…until they marry them, then they beg for that same woman to be a “traditional” wife. When they don’t get what they want (Surprise! Surprise!), they are running to the court house…or back to their Mommas home made cooking, crying that they should have married a woman. like. her ūüėź. 

Some women are the same…wanting that man who is easy on the eyes yet hard on the wallet.

 It seems unfair that I spent more time on the male shortcomings. ūüėÄ Y’all already know we have our issues. From mild to severe and possibly documented in someones notepad…(I’m an advocate for getting help….really.ūüíó

Being eccentric is often an awesome personality trait and we are all different. However, I find it so odd and amazing at the same time, how even when many stray away from the traditional family setting, we were literally designed by God to understand our roles as males and females. It is a part of our identities…our blueprints, so to speak. Even when liberal society tries to change it. When we begin to set up house and nest etc. We naturally fall into our positions, eventually. Some, effortlessly (those having the right intentions)…even a tatted up…dredlock wearing woman is going to want to have a hot meal ready and waiting for her gaged eared man, when he gets home from a long day. As women we want a strong, respectful, loving and supportive covering. Men want to protect and provide. Why try to change something so beautiful? 

We are who we are….but expect to live with what you chose. We don’t change who we are that easily, or at all.‚̧

(Genesis 2:22) “And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man.

Loving a Narcissist is Dangerous, but connecting with a “narc” labeler can be just as dangerous

I  never  really  understood  that  label,  until  of  course  I  had  to  face  the  repercussions  of  a  broken  marriage.  Number  1,  the  maturity  of  a  person  or  the  lack  thereof,   lies  in  whether  or  not  they  take  responsibility  for  their  part  for  the  failure  of  their  relationship.  No  matter  what  anyone  says,  the  failure  of  a  relationship  is  50/50.  The  reason  why  I  say  this,  is  because  God  gives  us  the  opportunity  to  understand  what  goes  into  a  lovely  and  Blessed  relationship through  scripture.  Most  of  us,  have  the  opportunity  to  open  up  the  Bible  and  read  about  love,  respect,  integrity,  WISE  CHOICES,  etc.  but  some  of  us  do  not,  because  we  want  to  live  how we  want  to  live,  and  then  fuss  about  it  on  social  media,  when  we  get  burned.

That¬† word¬† Narcissist,¬† is¬† yet¬† another¬† label¬† designed¬† to¬† give¬† a¬† title¬† to¬† spiritual¬† wickedness.¬† But¬† the¬† one¬† in¬† love¬† with¬† the¬† narcissist,¬† is¬† just¬† as¬† wicked,¬† because¬† they¬† chose¬† wickedness¬† over¬† Holiness.¬† Looks¬† entice,¬† even¬† smooth¬† words,¬† and¬† God¬† gives¬† us¬† warning¬† against¬† both.¬† (Proverbs 1:10) “My¬† son,¬† if¬† sinners¬† entice¬† thee,¬† consent¬† thou¬† not.”¬† Read¬† Proverbs 1.¬† In¬† fact,¬† read¬† the¬† entire¬† book¬† of¬† Proverbs.

In¬† our¬† lost¬† society,¬† we¬† play¬† the¬† blame¬† game¬† so¬† much,¬† and¬† get¬† people¬† to¬† side¬† with¬† us.¬† We¬† would¬† like¬† to¬† take¬† the¬† attention¬† away¬† from¬† us,¬† so¬† people¬† won’t¬† focus¬† in¬† on¬† how¬† we¬† chose¬† the¬† people¬† that¬† we¬† chose.¬† I¬† had¬† problems,¬† because¬† I¬† did¬† not¬† pray¬† before¬† I¬† jumped¬† off¬† the¬† ark¬† of¬† safety,¬† and¬† chose¬† my¬† own¬† mate,¬† by¬† what¬† I¬† thought¬† was¬† right¬† in¬† a¬† spouse.¬† DANGEROUS.¬† Now¬† that¬† I¬† am¬† growing¬† from¬† my¬† mistakes,¬† I¬† am¬† learning¬† that¬† I¬† had¬† a¬† large¬† part¬† to¬† play,¬† in¬† why¬† my¬† marriage¬† fell¬† a¬† part.¬† This¬† is¬† not¬† giving¬† an¬† excuse¬† to¬† people’s¬† abuse¬† within¬† relationships,¬† this¬† is¬† just¬† stating¬† the¬† facts.¬† Unless¬† we¬† come¬† from¬† cultures¬† with¬† arranged¬† marriages¬† and¬† friendships,¬† we¬† have¬† the¬† chance¬† to¬† choose¬† *right.

If  Jesus  Christ  already  has  the  perfect  plan  for  the  most  loving,  fulfilling  and  Blessed  relationships,  why  not  choose  Him?  Why  do  we  think  that  our  personal  attractions  is  enough  to  build on?  We  were  designed  to  attract  physically, but  we  were  not  designed  to  fall  so  deeply  into  attraction  that  we  try  to  build  a  home  on  sinking  sand,  where  no  moral  exists,  and  there  are  no  core  values.  Looks ,  caste  and  personality  are  not  enough.  Physical  beauty  can  not  be  the  reason  why  we  fall  in  love  and  breed  more  generations  through  this  false  perception  of  love.

Society¬† calls¬† it¬† Narcissism.¬† The¬† Body¬† of¬† Christ¬† calls¬† it¬† the¬† Jezebel¬† spirit.¬† It¬† can¬† affect¬† men¬† and¬† women. ¬† You¬† would¬† have¬† to read¬† about¬† “Jezebel”¬† to¬† understand¬† what¬† this¬† means.¬† She¬† was¬† a¬† real¬† person¬† in¬† the¬† Bible¬† and,¬† she¬† was¬† very¬† evil.¬† Her¬† ending¬† was¬† not¬† pleasant.

A¬† “Narcissistic”¬† person¬† is¬† dangerous,¬† however¬† the¬† one¬† who¬† chooses¬† a¬† narcissistic¬† person¬† can¬† be¬† just¬† as¬† toxic.¬† I¬† do¬† not¬† like¬† being¬† around¬† either¬† one.¬† If¬† you¬† are¬† around¬† someone¬† who¬† has¬† the¬† spirit¬† of¬† Jezebel,¬† you¬† can¬† and¬† most¬† likely¬† will¬† get¬† hurt¬† if¬† you¬† are¬† around¬† them¬† for¬† too¬† long.¬† A¬† person¬† who¬† continues¬† to¬† label¬† a¬† person¬† as¬† such,¬† without¬† taking¬† their¬† own¬† responsibility,¬† tends¬† to¬† put¬† everyone¬† on¬† a¬† checklist.¬† When¬† their¬† relationships¬† fail¬† with¬† people,¬† it¬† is always¬† the¬† other¬† person,¬† because¬† they¬† were¬† a¬† “narcissist”.¬† Anything¬† you¬† do¬† wrong,¬† even¬† if¬† not¬† intentionally¬† even¬† with¬† intent,¬† you¬† become¬† a¬† red¬† flag,¬† and¬† eventually¬† you¬† are¬† crowned¬† with¬† the¬† title,¬† “narcissist”.¬† It¬† is¬† a¬† demeaning¬† title¬† if¬† you¬† are¬† not¬† one,¬† and¬† quite¬† hurtful.¬† One¬† finds¬† themselves,¬† looking¬† at¬† their¬† mistakes¬† like…..”Maybe¬† I¬† am¬† one.”¬† Be¬† careful¬† tossing¬† around¬† labels.¬† Narcissism¬† is¬† more¬† of¬† a¬† spiritual¬† state,¬† than¬† it¬† is¬† a¬† mental¬† state…such¬† as¬† choosing¬† someone¬† who¬† embodies¬† that¬† spirit. When¬† you¬† choose¬† wrong,¬† it¬† is¬† because¬† of¬† the¬† state¬† of¬† your¬† spirit.¬† We¬† are told¬† so¬† many¬† times¬† through¬† scripture¬† to¬† not¬† be¬† deceived. ¬† When¬† we¬† know¬† our¬† worth¬† in¬† Christ,¬† we¬† want¬† nothing¬† less,¬† than¬† what¬† Jesus¬† wants¬† for¬† us.

“Complex men are like this..”

Complex  men  are  like  this.

Anything  that  you  do  right,  you  lose. (Do  not  be  too  passionate  or  they  equate  that  to  being  weird  or  scary.)

Anything¬† that¬† you¬† do¬† wrong,¬† you¬† are¬† never¬† forgotten.¬† (Don’t¬† you¬† dare¬† give¬† to¬† them¬† what¬† they¬† are¬† giving¬† to¬† you..no¬† hope¬† for¬† a¬† future.)

I¬† will¬† take¬† the¬† man¬† who¬† is¬† “certain”,¬† over¬† the¬† man¬† who¬† hides¬† behind¬† personal¬† philosophies¬† to¬† cover¬† damaged¬† complexity.¬† What¬† a¬† mind¬† boggling¬† game

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