When people say: “I’ll pray for you.”

I love praying…and I love praying for people, and I appreciate and love when people pray for me….but if you can’t even confess your own sins….how can you pray for ME? There must be Biblical order in all that we do. 

(James 5:16) “Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much.”

Not every human is walking in the righteousness of Christ Jesus either…so not everyone can pray for you, anyhow. Why is this so? (James 4:3; Psalm 66:18; Isaiah 59:2; ) 

(John 9:31) “Now we know that God heareth not sinners: but if any man be a worshipper of God, and doeth His will, him he heareth.”

Forgiveness (Part 3)

I am human. I am so human that, even when apologizing I have the thought in mind; ” When will they say sorry to me? Do they even know what they’ve done?”

That will not always happen, loves☺. Sometimes you will be the only one facing your shortcomings. As wonderful as it would be if we ALL apologized and recognized the hurts that we hand out…the reality is, not many people are willing to humble themselves, they may not realize that they hurt you, or they just may not care. It is a matter of the heart and soul. It is not “people” we are fighting.

(Ephesians 6:12) “For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.”

Every human being, whom has not been given over to a reprobate mind, is in a spiritual battle. We want people to move on our terms, serve God on our terms, forgive on our terms, trust on our terms, and love on our terms. If Jesus does not force…niether can we. 

Does it hurt when we forgive and others trespass against us, never saying; “I’m sorry”….? Absolutely! It stings!🐝Let God handle what you can’t control. Praise Him for the conviction, and pray for those who hurt you, that God may bring them to a place of repentance. It is not about you or them, it is about Honoring the name of our Lord, Jesus Christ. It is about obedience. Forgiveness, love….these things are obedience unto Christ.

(1 Samuel 15:22) “And Samuel said, Hath the Lord as great delight in burnt offerings and sacrifices, as in obeying the voice of the Lord? Behold, to obey is better than sacrifice, and to hearken than the fat of rams.”

Choose honesty. If you really do love people, your truth, their truths, have to be heard. It may be embarrassing. It may hurt. It may even make you feel like you are at the bottom of the barrel. But Jesus delights in truth and He hates a lying tongue. Be honest to bring glory to His name, to show others whom are fearful to be honest, that there is NO condemnation when they are in Christ Jesus. 

There is freedom in honesty, but imprisonment, in lies. 

(John 8:36) “If the son therefore shall make you free, ye shall be free indeed.”


LIARS (Part 2)

How do we forgive the lies?

(Colossians 3:13) “Forebearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: Even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye.”

You have this feeling of relief when you tell the truth. You are so relieved with the fact that you did, that you don’t realize the damage that you’ve caused….the trust that is severed. 

I will just say this. If a person or people embrace you and show you that they love you…they will be willing to accept the truth. Tell it!  If people don’t love you….tell it! If you have to second guess your place in people’s lives and wonder if you even matter that much, to them, even if they say you do, you have to walk away. What will happen if you don’t, is you will set yourself up for being someone that you do not want to be….just to keep them around. That means being a liar, among other things.

Integrity– When you read the definition of this word, it means more than just being honest. It means having moral character, uprightness, fairness,virtue, honor, sincerity, truthfulness, keeping ones word, righteousness. If you are lacking any one of these, then you are lacking in integrity. 

I write this for myself, then all of you.  I lived in a lie for a couple of years, because I was ashamed and embarrassed of what I came from. I was in a bad marriage and had to leave. We have since, asked eachother for forgiveness, and the rest was placed in God’s hands. 

Being labled a liar, and untrustworthy is one of the most disappointing moral situations…even if your reasons are legit. I came out of abuse. Anyone who has been through any form it, knows exactly the humiliation that you deal with, and how starting life over from the bottom up…takes a while. It is a very humbling experience and you do everything that you can to protect your emotions and your heart, even lie. Know that you do more harm to yourself, when you tell lies. Be around people who have your best interest at heart. If you are around people whom are facing their own demons, and they have not been delivered……guarantee, it will set you back. When they hurt you, because their choice in living, WILL…you will seldom get apologies, because they lack God, and integrity. They need as much spiritual help as you do. 

(Matthew 15:14) “Let them alone: they be blind leaders of the blind. And if the blind lead the blind, both shall fall into the ditch.”

Sometimes I hear people talk and I listen to how adamant they are about people in their lives needing to be honest in order to stay in their lives. I don’t disagree, by the way. But some of these same people, and this is what really makes me angry, won’t put the distasteful truths of their lives on the forefront. Even when you ask…they will work their way around it. When they are found out they are defensive. When their own personal covers are blown, take heed. You may get demeaned. 

Yet still, being a liar is wrong. Your integrity is your reputation. So is your dignity and self-respect.

I was a liar…but I’ve been forgiven

I struggled for a while with the idea that I kept up a lie for so long. It did not torment me as much, until I chose to submit my life to Christ. But also when I told someone how much I loved them…love is honest. I could not live in sin and call myself a follower of Jesus. Once I repented…asked God for forgiveness…that was that. He forgave me as quickly as I asked for Him to. But human beings are hard hearted by nature and hard to convince. 

We all want a chance…and several at that, but have a “No Tolerance” rule placed on anyone else. It is disheartening asking for forgiveness, when some of the ones that you go to , owe you apologies that you may never get. Still forgive, so God will forgive you. 

A liar whom repents, becomes a new life with new found integrity. They are no longer bound to that sin. They are no longer a liar. Much like a thief is no longer so, when they’ve turned away from that life.

If my lies which are covered under the blood of Jesus, still makes me untrustworthy, then an ex addict is still an addict, an ex whoremonger is still a whoremonger, an ex fornicator still can’t be trusted to hold a relationship, and this list keeps going. These titles are unfair and wrong, when a person has changed.


Just stop! You can’t keep up the lies. 

(Luke 12:2) “For there is nothing covered, that shall not be revealed; neither hid, that shall not be known.”

LIES (Part 1)

The above picture is a LIE because the below Scripture tells me the TRUTH. There is no forgiveness in the world. The enemy will always hold FORGIVEN sins against us, to keep us in guilt and in bonds. When we live in guilt, we aren’t trusting in God for our freedom, therefore we can’t live for him. (Know how to combat spiritual warfare.)

(Romans 8:1) “There is therefore now, no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the spirit.”

That scripture means exactly what it says. That is not a word for the unbeliever, it is for the believer and follower of Christ. When we are not living for Jesus, we are living under the bondage and curse of sin…..therefore, being condemned to death. 

Once we make the declaration to be saved and live for Him, this is when our freedom begins. This is also the point where, you shed those old skins and transform into a new person. Sometimes that old dead skin, has pieces still attached to the new…and peeling it away, hurts like mad. But the old you has got to go…regardless of temporal pain.

When you become a new creature in the Lord, you don’t feel right, not even safe living in the flesh…you just can’t. Light and darkness can not coexist. You are being purged. 

Your truth that you tried hiding, is no longer a mark of shame, but a part of your testimony.

(Isaiah 50:7) “For the Lord God will help me; therefore shall I not be confounded: therefore have I set my face like flint, and I know that I shall not be ashamed.” 


 When we walk in the flesh and we are living in sin, we justify our actions and our ways. Suddenly, we are the victims of every wrong doing, but we are never the culprit and we never share blame. This is a lack of integrity in character and also a lie. 

Howbeit, there are moments where we aren’t to blame….I will get to that point later. We become so well versed in telling “our stories” of hurtful endurances. We paint ourselves to be the victors and never the villain…..because in a story, let’s be honest , we love the brave heroes. 

We must appear to be in truth, because that title: “LIAR”, is worse than being called ugly. A liar is put in the same category as a leper and one with ebola…..

A liar is also a deciever, a storyteller, but worse…if we have to lie, this may mean that we don’t trust the person that we are lying to, with our *personal stories. Perhaps the other person was hurtful, will run when they know the truth and break hearts in the process, keep their distance, look at you differently….and this is with TELLING the truth. While there are many reasons to lie….a lie is a lie and a lie makes a liar. 

(Proverbs 12:22) “Lying lips are abomination to the Lord: but they that deal truly are His delight.” 

Like any sin, lying will send people to hell, if one does not repent and turn from it.

If you feel that you need to lie for any of the above reasons…..then you are in the wrong company.  

(2 Corinthians 6:14) “Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? And what communion hath light with darkness?”

Some people often use that scriptural passage pertaining to marriage, but it is refering to general relationships and fellowship (also marriage). You can save yourself the trouble, simply having the right company in your life:

(Proverbs 13:20) “Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm.” 

Okay. There were many scriptures that I found having to do with friendship, but Proverbs 13:20 got a hold of my heart right away. Coming from experience….being lied to and having been the liar, I’ve learned that, one wise in the scriptures…not with their own ideologies and knowledge, but know their word and live it, not only are forgiving, but merciful and loving. When you tell the hard truth, it feels like you are free falling, the wise know how to cushion that landing with the healing salve of the Lord’s love and word. And they will handle you with respect, love and care, and treat you even better than they already did. 

There is a certain respect that I have for people whom tell the truth about themselves…even when knowing that truth is embarassing even terrible. I love them even more than before. The truth is not easy to tell, because it makes you vulnerable and open to ungodly judgement and ridicule.  

Integrity goes hand and hand with selfLESSness. If you are self-serving, chances are, alot of your truth is masked. Honesty is a part of the character of Jesus. If you don’t live for Him, then you live against Him. 

(James 4:4) “Ye adulterers and adulteresses, know ye not that the friendship of the world is enmity with God? Whosoever therefore will be a friend of the world is the enemy of God.”

Honesty denies  self. 

A little more….for my Β  Β  Β  Β  MπŸ’—M. Mother’s Day…mass produced.

Another commercialized holiday coming to a close. Why does this make me happy? (Rolling my eyes) because I can now go into public and not run into people taking pics for the “gram”, FB, snapchat, twitter…..nothing is personal anymore.

In my Mothers words: “This is a shame! Look at all these folks out. Mom’s should be celebrated everyday. Everything has a label, for the man to make money”

I love my Mom!πŸ˜πŸ’

When “glamour shots” were in!

I love this beautiful woman!!!!