How do we forgive the lies?
(Colossians 3:13) “Forebearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: Even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye.”
You have this feeling of relief when you tell the truth. You are so relieved with the fact that you did, that you don’t realize the damage that you’ve caused….the trust that is severed.
I will just say this. If a person or people embrace you and show you that they love you…they will be willing to accept the truth. Tell it! If people don’t love you….tell it! If you have to second guess your place in people’s lives and wonder if you even matter that much, to them, even if they say you do, you have to walk away. What will happen if you don’t, is you will set yourself up for being someone that you do not want to be….just to keep them around. That means being a liar, among other things.
Integrity– When you read the definition of this word, it means more than just being honest. It means having moral character, uprightness, fairness,virtue, honor, sincerity, truthfulness, keeping ones word, righteousness. If you are lacking any one of these, then you are lacking in integrity.
I write this for myself, then all of you. I lived in a lie for a couple of years, because I was ashamed and embarrassed of what I came from. I was in a bad marriage and had to leave. We have since, asked eachother for forgiveness, and the rest was placed in God’s hands.
Being labled a liar, and untrustworthy is one of the most disappointing moral situations…even if your reasons are legit. I came out of abuse. Anyone who has been through any form it, knows exactly the humiliation that you deal with, and how starting life over from the bottom up…takes a while. It is a very humbling experience and you do everything that you can to protect your emotions and your heart, even lie. Know that you do more harm to yourself, when you tell lies. Be around people who have your best interest at heart. If you are around people whom are facing their own demons, and they have not been delivered……guarantee, it will set you back. When they hurt you, because their choice in living, WILL…you will seldom get apologies, because they lack God, and integrity. They need as much spiritual help as you do.
Sometimes I hear people talk and I listen to how adamant they are about people in their lives needing to be honest in order to stay in their lives. I don’t disagree, by the way. But some of these same people, and this is what really makes me angry, won’t put the distasteful truths of their lives on the forefront. Even when you ask…they will work their way around it. When they are found out they are defensive. When their own personal covers are blown, take heed. You may get demeaned.
I was a liar…but I’ve been forgiven
I struggled for a while with the idea that I kept up a lie for so long. It did not torment me as much, until I chose to submit my life to Christ. But also when I told someone how much I loved them…love is honest. I could not live in sin and call myself a follower of Jesus. Once I repented…asked God for forgiveness…that was that. He forgave me as quickly as I asked for Him to. But human beings are hard hearted by nature and hard to convince.
We all want a chance…and several at that, but have a “No Tolerance” rule placed on anyone else. It is disheartening asking for forgiveness, when some of the ones that you go to , owe you apologies that you may never get. Still forgive, so God will forgive you.
A liar whom repents, becomes a new life with new found integrity. They are no longer bound to that sin. They are no longer a liar. Much like a thief is no longer so, when they’ve turned away from that life.
If my lies which are covered under the blood of Jesus, still makes me untrustworthy, then an ex addict is still an addict, an ex whoremonger is still a whoremonger, an ex fornicator still can’t be trusted to hold a relationship, and this list keeps going. These titles are unfair and wrong, when a person has changed.
LIAR STOP LYING!
Just stop! You can’t keep up the lies.
(Luke 12:2) “For there is nothing covered, that shall not be revealed; neither hid, that shall not be known.”