I had to think long and hard about this one. I have spoken with uber intelligent men who have made me want to dive head first and swim in their company, to men who were do do brained, and made me think: “No wonder you are in the mess that you are in.” You are just, stupid.
Advice # 1. Head games
Women, by God’s design and purpose….for the sake of nurturing a family, are very emotionally inclined to feelings…which is necessary, while men are more emotionally inclined to situations . For the most part we nurture. We comfort, open our hearts, share and embrace feelings of sorts, etc.We only get emotional (which scares you men), when you are not quite steadfast in your positions as men. If you knew your personal value, nonsense would not be permissible, from neither yourself nor the women in your lives. Do not get involved with a woman, before knowing who you are as a man, your place as a man, who that woman is…inside and out….I do not mean sexually, and knowing what her place is, as the woman in your life. Pulling someone into your life for the sake of interest and the need for companionship, is not the only reason why a woman should be in your life. She should be your partner: your helpmate….as God intended, the one who not only aids in your success, but helps you to reach your excellence. She is a sacraficer. She will see danger coming, even before yourself and warn you, that you may be prepared and not blind sided and taken out….you should have her in your life to ‘watch’, as you protect….in other words, she will have your back while you protect hers. In return, she will be at her best, because you are at yours. Remember….you are the man, not her. You hold the responsibility of protecting her heart, not filling her head with your hot air and boy like games.
Advice # 2. Sexxx
A woman’s sexual desires are as strong as yours. What makes ours strong, are the connections that we have when we share our bodies and our intimate space. Sometimes we just really want it…..like yourselves. However, be careful! Biblically, there is a spiritual aspect to sex. When you connect physically, you are connecting spiritually. Which is why sex was designed for marriage…between 2. (Not judging) . BE CAREFUL whose spirit you connect with. Also, be loving and kind. If you mis’treat’ a woman, do not expect to get her treats. We are funny like that 😕.
Advice # 3. We want your brains! Invade our brains!👽
Your leadership and intelligence is so attractive. Leave the “stupid” for the girls, because women eat full course meals, not rabbit scraps. Feed our minds and souls completely.🎻🎨📰🔬🎼📝💡⛪
Advice # 4. “YOU” time
Being alone, is not the same as being lonely. A man who can be alone and be happy and just fine with that CHOICE, is a man who knows who he is, what he wants, eventually….who he wants. His “need” for someone transpires into his desire and want…such as a gift, rather than a need like an addict needs a fix to feel normal, and can’t live without that need. Know how to be by yourself and learn about “you”, in order to have something to offer when you want to share your life with someone else. Need someone in your life because you want them in your life…..not because you need them to live. A woman appreciates an independent man.
Advice # 5. The blame game
If you keep dating crazy, it is because you keep selecting ‘crazy’. Therefore, what does that say about you? I do not appreciate men who have dealt with nutty women, and can not see a normal woman in her emotions, as normal, after that. When men have experiences with crazy women, we ALL get deemed as crazy. I hate that. It is like a woman becoming a man hater because she was hurt by a few. When you get personal with a woman, not sexually but emotionally, expect her to do the same. She will share, and she will give, and gladly receive the same in return…….and while you are uneasy with what you helped create, she will fall for you hard. When you pull away…..her reactions are not her being CRAZY, unless she already was, but for a normal and sane woman, her reactions are from a hurt heart. Be responsible. (Disclaimer: personal experience. Ladies, guard your hearts.)
I will end it here for now. Men, you are wonderful. We love you, can’t stand you sometimes, but for the most part…..we are Blessed to have you….you strengthen our homes, our society, plant beautiful babies in our bellies, help us build up nations. Be smart….and God Bless you all, abundantly.