So close to a break through, that the pressures of life have increased. But what I find myself tired of, is the loss of discretion and privacy during the times when we most need it. We have given way for sides to be picked. Division has crept up on us as quickly as the night has turned to day. Why? Simple……selfish ambitions interrupt every good thing. Perhaps if I stand on a mountaintop with a mega-phone, blurting out the treasures of my matrimony……which is the point where secrets were appreciated, it would settle the score.
Marital treasures are not always something pretty, but it is the realization of the people that we marry, that only we, the wives and the husbands are supposed to know. When that is gone….what is the point? What can we share together, that others do not already know? Your hurts and pains, your *stress and breaking points. If I am the one who brings out your worst……….why stick around? Don’t do it for the children, because the children are in pain. Don’t do it to prove a point, because points make the hurt linger on. If there is not one thing positive, besides another life, that I have given to you, then by all means, return to the bosom of your mother, your comforter, your confidant. Because if you can’t cling to me, and love me and understand the imperfections of a wife married to a very imperfect man, and close the door behind you, and let everyone stand on the outside of our marital space, then I think that we are both better off. The same for myself, why stay in the humiliating pain of knowing that, the secrets we share in the space that we created life in, do not stay within ourselves?
Marriage is full of decisions, and while we have faced and still face these questions at times, the easiest thing to do is to imagine life on the other side of the grass. But the hardest realization is when you finally realize, when mending is much harder to do, and you’ve taken a dangerous stroll in that grass, which seemed greener at first, but it was just a dark cloud casting its shadow, that you’ve stepped outside of God’s will. What is broken at that point, may never be put back together again. Marriage is the MOST DIFFICULT MINISTRY that we become a part of. Being vulnerable before another person is not always easy, because hurt is sometimes inevitable. Separation and Divorce are the easiest of advices, but what is to follow that? How will the kids end up? Where will the kids end up? Will they stay in church and love the Lord? Will us staying together out of convenience, teach our children to resent God in someways and hate the respect of marriage? The best advice that I can ever give is, keep the word of God in your heart, so that when you need scripture to fight, it is right there waiting for you. At your weakest points in marriage, remember why God joined you together in the first place. The adversary is always there trying to throw you out of character…..believe that
What God has joined together…………………………