It is quite hard being submissive, when you are in a disrespectful situation. So expect to get back, what you give, or rather, get nothing back at all, but an exhausted, fed up and speechless significant other. We must learn to respect, in order to be respected. Jesus never said anything about letting someone batter you with hands, words and action, and being totally submissive in a destructive place (in marriage). He knows that we are human, and when submission to the Lord is abandoned and not honored, then submission to the husband will more than likely fail from the wife. Lord help Your people! There are impressionable lives at stake…..your children. But many will twist scripture to the point that it is more binding and creates strongholds. That is not Godly, that is satanic. Be submissive….it does not matter what your husband does….be submissive. This is a lie. It is a two way street.
I asked myself the question once; “What is more troublesome? A single parent home, or a home with both parents? There is a catch. The single parent home realizes the delicacy of raising a child in “a single parent” home, so they do all that they can through prayer and action, to make their home environment safe, sound and holy for their child/children. The home with both parents, has both parents, but the house is constantly plagued with parental disputing, disagreements and fights displayed before innocent eyes. You must choose the lesser of two evils. I hate to put it in those terms, but it is reality for many.
I have seen both homes. A single parent home where the kids turn into well-rounded adults and homes with both parents where, the kids turn out to be worn out and confused adults because of their parents. By no means am I going to mention a home with both parents who are living upright and together…not just physically, but spiritually and emotionally together, because we all know that is the best type of home.
Do we stay together for the kids, and claim that we did it because God told us to? Or do we let it go, and not subject our children to our insanities and sins? Jesus is a gentleman, and even when we pray, yet we refuse to let God change us, we choose that refusal, and we choose to forfeit marriage and holiness. That is not God’s doing.
If we would rather abandon our responsibilities of properly caring for the families that we prayed to have so badly, some of us even begged God for, then we can blame ourselves for the choices that others have to make because of selfish ambitions.
What I love about marriage, is that it is a selfless lifestyle. It requires more than the long shifts that we brag so much about working……working long and hard does not make us outstanding spouses….working long hard hours is what some of us have to do to avoid vagabond living, so swallow your pride. An excellent marriage, puts God first….not the church building and the people (although, important). If we know Jesus Christ, then we would understand that He created family, and requires for us to hold it near and dear to our hearts…..abandoning anything and everyone that places a wedge of separation.
What I love about marriage, is that it gives us the chance to share our visions and not just keep them to ourselves. We should instantly have partners to complete our missions with, in the Lord.
What I love about marriage, is that our children are the carriers and caretakers of the seeds that we plant. What we sow is what THEY reap. This could be a good thing, if we do right by our children.
Our children become the inheritors of everything that the Lord gave to us. How will we treat ourselves, each other, and the gifts, talents and visions that God designed for us? We are inheritors and borrowers. What we have, we pass down. If we let our seeds die because of our actions towards one another in marriage, towards our children….what will they have?
The making and breaking of a marriage happens between 2 people. We can blame it on outside influences, but outsiders…..friends, family, relatives, co-workers do not live in our homes. We choose what is right and we choose what is wrong. We choose how we live and how well or how bad we treat others, and we to, reap what we sow. God is just and understanding as well as forgiving.
Let us make marriage our priority in the Lord, so that we can see more successful families in Christ, rather than the many divided homes in the body of Christ. This should not be a pandemic amongst believers, but it is, and we all need to pray for one another, continually.