I am sure we have all seen those infomercials where the women are gleaming with insecurities and do not even realize it. Sure, they lost weight, their bodies look healthy, but here is the one phrase that I always hear in these commercials; “After trying this system, I lost 95lbs and now my husband can’t stay away from me!” Okay, let us analyze that comment. It will only take a moment.
So, what your saying is, when you were FAT, your husband did not find you desirable, ad least not as desirable as you are now that you are thinner and showing off your body now? Your also saying how shallow your spouse is and how he loves you unconditionally…….if he does not see a muffin top. Wow, the damage this causes to a woman’s self-esteem. I do not know how some women can view these insults as acceptable just because…”men will be men.”
I can recall a time when I needed verbal affirmation from my spouse, that I was pretty. I then began to read the Song of Solomon, and realized that if he could not love me the way that God respects me, then he was not worth it. He can never take God’s place in my life, nor can he love me the way that the Lord does, but he can try, like a son tries to imitate his father.
So these unacceptable passes for men come with an extensive allowance from some women. The man is not entirely at fault. Physical attraction is important when beginning and when in a relationship. However, I say that some women brand themselves in a way that sets the tone for the kind of men that they attract.
I am sure that we have all scrolled through our facebook pages and saw the infamous self shots…(mostly taken in front of a mirror), with women even young girls snapping photos of their bodies. There is never anything wrong with having confidence. But there is a fine line between confidence and displaying and selling the wrong image of oneself.
Some of these women may not admit, but they put themselves on display. They want the confirmation that what they feel about themselves, others feel the same way. When it comes to the male audience, the idea of being physically looked at and lusted after is appealing to some women.
On the other hand, when these ladies get into a relationship with whom they were targeting with their bodies, they suddenly want these men to be gentlemen. It does not work like that sister. Respectable men will not comment on another woman’s physique, unless he is married to her.
The reason why that statement seems so “untrue”, is because chivalry is not as common these days as it once was…..nor is; “let’s wait until we are married.” Then again, the modesty of women has also changed. Of course we will lack honorable men. Women, when you use your own body as a display piece, you are telling people to judge your worth based on your looks, because you are doing it yourself. You set the bar for how you will be respected and perceived by others.
Such earnest writing from such a simple infomercial……but it is through simplicity that the media is able to sell their brand, their nonacceptance to the right ways, and capture the attention of billions around the world……………………..and they know this.