Why is it that we respond to abuse if it involves hitting? We respond to abuse if it involves black eyes and bruises. But we are often slow to respond when abuse is verbal. It is as if we look at the victim and say: “Oh, they are just words…ignore them.” Verbal abuse is another form of being punched in the face, kicked in the ribs, and having the life strangled out of you. The only difference is, there is not always physical scarring from the abuser.
The scars take on another form; emotional scarring, mental scarring, self-esteem issues, and is often detrimental to one’s character. Verbal abuse is a way to control, manipulate the victim, keep in bondage, and ultimately force into submission. Many of those whom have been on the receiving end of this abuse, have probably sounded the alarm quite loudly, but it was ignored and brushed off.
Men and women who are verbally abused may also hide their abuse and turn to self-infliction; cutting, attempt /succeed a suicide, attempt/succeed a homicide, alcoholism, drug abuse, seclusion from family and friends, promiscuity, anger issues, and may repeat these abusive patterns themselves, on others.
Okay, the bottom line of this topic is……RESPECT. There are certainly deep rooted issues embedded into the makeup of those who inflict this abuse. Perhaps they were victims of verbal, physical or sexual abuse at one point in their own lives. This sort of abuse does not just sprout up overnight like weeds. It is a cycle, a broken record and a repeated history. The abuser is hurt, and is perpetrating the pain themselves. How does this end? It takes God. No amount of therapy, counseling, and human intercession can “fix” this problem. There must be a reception of God’s help. Without it, nothing will be resolved.
God extends His hand, but He never forces His love upon any of us. We must receive Him. There are no catches nor any gimmicks. Some things can only be repaired by Jesus Himself.
Respect is not just a word, but actions put forward. Handling our Blessings (family) in life with tender love and care, as if we know for a fact that God giveth and He taketh away. These damaging cycles can be broken, if there is a willingness for them to be destroyed. If not, get help. Protect yourself and your children…..the little ones that God entrusted you with. Our children are the one’s who get damaged the most, and end up repeating what they see and hear, as they become adults.
Any abuse is awful to go through, but for the abuse that lacks a “look” and a noticeable feature…….I’m speaking up for the hopeless (there is hope)……for the aggravated…(God knows your frustrations)……for the ignored……(there is nothing done in the dark, that God won’t bring to the light). Do not seek vengeance. The number one feeling against those who abuse, is to take them out, one way or another, if you cannot get out. Do not let that hatefulness and darkness over take you. Vengeance belongs to the Lord. He says it Himself in Romans 12:19-21. He is standing by…watching and protecting you. He will avenge your pain. Stay healthy! Stay happy! Stay safe! Stay hopeful! Stay sweet…even when you do not feel like it. Don’t give up!!!!!!
Love, Raven Nicole`